Maintaining a relationship takes dedication and perseverance, but when that
relationship has the added complication of being miles apart, the task becomes even
more daunting. However, if those involved are truly willing to do what it takes to
make it work, there are things that can be done to make the situation less strenuous
and give the relationship a chance to grow despite the distance.
- Using the Telephone
When two people in love must be apart, hearing each others voice takes on greater
importance than usual. Find a phone plan that allows for unlimited calling so that
financial restrictions do not limit talk time. Arrange times when it is convenient
for both partners to talk and do not miss scheduled calls if at all possible. Make
talking every day a priority.
- Other Forms of Keeping in Touch
As with any relationship, communication is the key to success even when a great
distance separates those involved. Certainly this can include handwritten letters,
but also sending heartfelt text messages is a great idea as well. Anything that lets
your partner know you are thinking of him or her is always a pleasant reminder of
- Keep Expectations Realistic
While staying in touch is important, it is critical that both participants in the
relationship keep in mind the reality of the situation. There is a reason that you
must be apart and whether that reason is a job, school, a sick family member or
something else, that responsibility has to be attended to. There will be times when
this will interfere with staying in touch, so expect these times and take them in
- Treat Each Other Fairly
Be sure that all the responsibility for the relationship does not fall on only one
partner. If only one person is making calls, sending texts and working at keeping
things going, it will quickly come to seem unfair to the partner doing all the work.
Do not let the distance between you take away the romance. Send flowers and gifts,
write love songs and poetry or send lunch to your loved one. You can even do things
like share a dinner together by having the same meal at the same time even though
you may be in different cities halfway around the world.
Keep It Spontaneous. Perhaps the hardest part of all this is keeping it genuinely spontaneous.
You do not want to send a text just because it is the time you usually send a text but because
something made you think of your partner. Having dinner together on a certain night
each week might be a good idea but don’t let a schedule dictate everything you do.
Spontaneity shows your partner that they are always on your mind.
About the Author
Jo Harris is the Outreach Director for the Morgan Law Firm. She is a frequent
blogger on a variety of subjects. The firm is located at 4101 Parkstone Heights
Dr., Suite 250, Austin, Texas 78746 and can be phoned at (512) 551-0807.
Additionally you can find more information on the Morgan Law Firm website.